When someone attaches unkindness to criticism, she's angry. Angry people need to criticize as an outlet for their anger. That's why you must reject unkind criticism. Unkind criticism is never part of a meaningful critique of you. Its purpose is not to teach or to help, its purpose is to punish.
Barbara Sher I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was
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They say the world is round and yet,
``Sometimes I think it's square.
``So many little hurts you get,
``From corners here and there.
``We flatter those we scarcely know
``And please the fleeting guest.
``Yet we deal many a thoughtless blow,
``To those we love the best.
Roger Heffington Personal correspondence between K. Weber and R. Heffington
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